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Complexities Of Bullying

Discovering The Real Bullies - Moving From Chaos To Order

Posted: May 11, 2019

“Courage is the father of all virtues. Compassion is the mother.” -Anonymous 


Dear Friend,


I trust this blog finds you well.

Are children really afraid of standing up to bullies? 

Are YOU??? 

Is it possible that kids are more afraid of the “consequence” of facing a bully,? 

As a fellow parent, may I ask you a very serious question?

Are you okay with how popular culture wants your child to deal with bullies?

There are a lot of interesting perpectives on bullying.

In our society, the popular point of view suggests that if a child or adult is being harassed and threatened, the remedy is to report it to the "authorities."

If you take a stand, defend yourself, and deal with your own problem, the "authorities" will punish you.

The "authorities" will protect you, right the wrongs, and restore the peace.


Nice idea.

But it's a fairy tale.

Do you have kids in school?

Are you aware of what they are taught about bullying?

Do you realize that most kids are afraid to take a stand, defend themselves, and deal with their own problems?


Why are they afraid?

They are are afraid for the same reason that most adults are afraid.

The "authorities" have made it very clear.

If you; take action, defend yourself, and deal with a threat by yourself, the consequences will be severe.

The "authorities" will punish you. Your freedom will be taken away. 

You will pay for your decision to protect yourself, perhaps for the rest of your life.

You might say people are "terrified."

Stop wondering why there is a bullying epidemic in the world.

Start figuring out who the real bullies are.

Decide what you are going to do about it.

All Martial Arts philosophy is built on a foundation of turning chaos into order. 

Your ability to create order from chaos is where your sense of self-worth comes from. 

Children develop their self-esteem in the exact same way. 

Being a victim of bullying is horrible, and volunteering for it is even worse. 

I look forward to seeing you and your family in class at the Dojo. 




Kyoshi Thomas Clifford 

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